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Dear Chase (the girl dating a dairy farmer),

Krista Stauffer

Dear Chase,

I was recently contacted by your boyfriend. He let me know that he was a dairy farmer and he was dating a very special girl. He asked if I could write something for you as well as the other girls that were dating or considering dating a dairy farmer to help you with understanding the life a dairy farmer lives. I believe he really wanted you to not feel alone, to know that there are other women out there that understand what it is like to be in a relationship with a dairyman. I personally thought it was sweet of him to contact a complete stranger, I feel like this guy cares quite a bit about you.

So here I am, writing you this letter.

Dairy farming is a 365 day a year commitment. At minimum, there are chores that have to be done every morning as well as every night. It is more than a job, it is a lifestyle, it is a passion and it is something that comes before everything else. Why? Because lives are at stake if things do not get done when needed. No, not human lives but the lives of livestock. The cows have to be fed every day, milked every day, facilities have to be cleaned, new life needs taken care of, illnesses need treated, etc. You basically just entered a relationship where your man is committed to quite a few other ladies, ladies that are very needy. The kind that will call in the middle of the night, text like 50 times a day, cry if they do not get their way and want very expensive things bought for them. Yes my dear, you have some major competition.

So how does one make it work?

To be honest, five years into it and I am still working on it. I have attended quite a few events by myself, I have not attended quite a few events so I wouldn’t have to attend by myself, I have canceled last-minute on friends/family, I have walked into church and appointments late and I will most likely be doing those very same things five years from now. It is farm life.

The heifers will be on the wrong side of the fence when you are already running late to church, an older cow will go into labor as you are headed out the door for your dinner date, the power will go out minutes before a milking; leaving you stuck on the farm all night even though it is an employees night to milk, you will miss Christmas on the coast with family due to freezing weather at the farm and the list goes on.

There will be times when all your friends are out on a Friday night and you will have to make a choice to stay with your farmer or go with them. There will be times when you are all done up, ready to go out and you walk down the stairs to him putting on his barn clothes to head out to fix a problem. You will be let down. You will have your feelings hurt. You will feel like you are not important at times.

But you are. You are so very important.

This man is choosing to share this amazing life with you and only you (and the ladies). Having a man who works hard, that is committed to something that most folks can’t even comprehend and is working in a profession as noble as farming is something to be proud of. Having a man who tends to newborn life, takes care of the sick and when he has to put down one of his cows, you see his heart-break, a man like that is hard to come by. Having a man who works for the lifestyle, a lifestyle that includes working side by side with you; that is simply priceless.

You will have to make some changes. You will have to change your idea of what is considered a date. You will need to change your perception of what romance is… but trust me, it will be worth it. Riding alongside him in the tractor or truck you will create some of your best memories. Spending a Friday night in the milking parlor, dancing to the music on the radio while waiting for the cows to be milked or eating a meal together in the field during harvest… those are simply things that only women like you and I will be able to experience. You my dear are a very lucky girl. Less than 2% of this great nation consists of farmers which means even less than 2% of all women will get to experience a romance like yours. Hollywood has nothing on us.

So with that said, make sure to read my post about being in a relationship with agriculture and remember to never stop dating your farmer. I am always here for you to message if you need a friend.

From the Farm,

Krista

P.S.

Slayton, you best be taking this girl out on some off the farm dates too. The tractor rides are amazing but a girl needs a reason to get all done up. Best of luck to the both of you!

 

 

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Krista Stauffer

Owner at Stauffer Dairy
Krista didn't grow up on a farm but fell in love with a dairy farmer and now works alongside her husband on their family dairy farm, raising five children. Despite her non-farm upbringing, she embraces farm life, enjoys gardening, and remodeling their farmhouse. She also runs a successful women's boutique, manages social media for local businesses, and serves on the board of a non-profit creamery, showcasing her dedication to entrepreneurship and community service.
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